I already left one husband because I was doing everything. He finally got the hint a couple years later when he was missing out on his daughter’s life and realized that doing the parenting work means getting to spend time with your kid. I’m in another relationship where I have to fight tooth and nail to get the dad involved. It’s exhausting for me to continuously have to delegate work. Why can’t they initiate on their own? And then there’s my dad who admitted he used to pretend to be asleep at night so he wouldn’t have to deal with nighttime problems. Looking back, it was always mom who was there for me in the middle of the night.