Smoking isn’t just smoking

It’s a way to keep your vibration down

Allison Kessler


In my low period after my marriage fell apart in 2009, I went through a string of guys… most of them smokers.

I didn’t smoke. I thought it was just a coincidence that the guys I was attracted to all smoked. Now I’m exploring the idea that there’s more to it than just that.

I currently have been with the same man for 7+ years and we miraculously have a 2-year-old son — something we both wanted more than anything else in this world. We share quite a bond.

And yet.

He’s smoked the entire time I’ve been with him. He started smoking when he was 13 and comes from a chain-smoking family. It’s all he’s known and is a pillar in his existence. Smoking is a way for him to relieve stress, have time to himself, take a break from the world, hang out with other smokers. I mean, it’s a big deal to him.

When we first got together, I didn’t mind the smoking.

However, I had a spiritual awakening in 2013 and have been working really hard over the last 6 years to grow spiritually… in essence, raise my vibration. This is a good thing. Except the smoking has become a contentious issue in our relationship. I can’t stand being around it. I can’t stand the smell of it, the lingering poisons circulating in the air I’m breathing (just from his breath — he doesn’t smoke inside), the odour on his clothing, his persistent coughing from lungs that are starting to speak up in dismay about impending future health problems.

But — is it just the smoking? Or is it the increasing gap in our vibrations that is causing relationship trouble?

The concept of vibration is complicated.

Photo by Mike Lewinski on Unsplash

Everyone’s talking about the Law of Attraction (LoA) these days, but it’s abstract and seems to work opposite to common sense.

Vibration is at the heart of the LoA and understanding how it really works is critical.

The real question for me to explore is:



Allison Kessler

Calgary mompreneur | figuring it out, making it work.